During the daily Holy See Synod press conference on October
8th Fr. Rosica explained what he believed to be “one of the salient
interventions” of the day, noting that according to the presenter, “language
such as ‘living in sin’, ‘intrinsically disordered’, or ‘contraceptive
mentality’ are not necessarily words that invite people to draw closer to
Christ and the Church.”
“There is a great desire that our language has to change in
order to meet the concrete situations,” he added.
“Marriage is already seen by many as being filtered in harsh
language in the Church. How do we make that language appealing, and loving and
inviting. We’re not speaking about rules or laws we’re speaking about a person
who is Jesus who is the source of our faith, the leader of our Church, he is
the one who invites us into a mystery.”
The president of the New Zealand Bishop’s Conference
Archbishop John Dew Of wellington blogged the same day that he was one of the
speakers at the Extraordinary Synod on the Family to call on the Church to drop
traditional language describing sin, such as the term “disordered.”
‘I gave my own Intervention today and it seemed to be well
received by most. I basically said that we have to change the language which is
used in various Church documents so that people do not see and hear the Church
judging or condemning, passing out rules and laws, but rather showing concern
and compassion and reaching out to help people discover God in their lives he
wrote
This approach seems to echo the recent pastoral letter issued
by the Bishop’s Conference of New Zealand on the ‘Responses of the Preparatory
Document’ for the Extraordinary Assembly of the Synod of Bishops which claimed
that (A) strong sense of exclusion and hurt is felt by many people who are
living in situations not in accord with Church teaching in areas such as
divorce and re-marriage, cohabitation, contraception and same sex unions. This
sense of exclusion and hurt they say is also felt by their family and friends, and by
those in the wider community who see what they consider to be the exclusion of
others.
The sense of exclusion according to the Pastoral letter can come from one or all of the
following:
· The existence of the teaching
itself, which on its own is seen to exclude those who can’t match the ideal.
· Hard-line un-pastoral presentation
of the teaching, in a few cases by priests, but mostly by organizations or
individuals who “police” the “rules”.
· The attitudes of some parishioners
which are perceived to be, or actually are, judgmental in relation to the life
situation of others.
· A strong personal sense of failure,
of “not meeting the ideal” set by the Church, and therefore a feeling of not
being accepted in the Church community.
Colleen Bayer of Family Life International who is the New Zealand spokesperson for Voice of the Family has expressed concern
that those proclaiming the truth of marriage and family at the Synod on the
Family are described as “defensive” by Archbishop John Dew, while those
proposing a new language were being “pastoral”.
“Pastoral care of the faithful includes teaching them so
that they know the truth and can live it” she said. “Those who teach the truth unreservedly do so out of great
love and compassion as they know that ultimately healing and peace can only
come through following Jesus through the teaching of the Church.”
She stressed that pitting pastoral versus defensive against
each other only served to undermine the teaching authority of the Church.
Those who wish to see the Church’s teaching change or
certain language removed, were causing the faithful serious harm through lack
of teaching and a skewed version of the Catholic faith.
In relation to the NZ Catholic Bishop’s Statement Colleen
was unsure if this was a true and fair understanding and analysis of the real
situation or a reaction to the perceived hurts of individuals.
She noted that she knows families who faithfully live out
the Church’s teaching on marriage and family. “These families often struggle, but they rely on God’s grace
to get them through” she said.
Often these families are seen as fundamentalist or
self-righteous. They often feel marginalized for their faithfulness. “This is not mentioned in the Bishop’s
statement” Colleen said.
Bayer felt that the Bishop’s really needed to be
acknowledging these families and their difficulties and thanking them for their
faithfulness, their deep love of Christ and His Church and for their
sacrificial love.
She felt the Church needed to put in place concrete support
systems for families and provide solid teaching so that the faithful can be
real witnesses as they live the truth in love.
“Yes there are people hurting and who feel they don’t belong
because of their personal circumstances, but ‘bending the rules’ as it were to
make them feel welcome is not loving them, it is not showing them true compassion
and mercy.”